Welcome to My First Not-Blog

I really didn't want to do this.

I didn't want to write a blog.

I had zero interest in writing anything to put on my website that would fall into the blog category.

A combo of imposter syndrome and fear was stopping me.

I ask my clients to be aware of their negative self-talk or limiting beliefs, and yet I was so resistant to engaging with my own self-talk when it came to blogging.

But, when I was finally ready to confront my stuckness, it became clear that I was holding onto some very negative and limiting self-talk that included:

"I have nothing of interest to share"

"Writing this will be a boring process"

"It requires some public vulnerability…UGH, I don't want to be vulnerable in public"

And yet, here I am.

How Did I Get Over My Inner Critics and Get to This Place?

1. I reframed my thinking

For whatever reason, the word blog gave me a pit in my stomach, so I reframed – I decided not to think about this as a blog, but as a place to share the tips/tricks/and takeaways from my work.

2. I finally challenged myself to question my limiting beliefs and self-talk that was keeping me stuck around this topic.

I went through each area and questioned my fear or assumptions.

Turns out, after coaching for 3 years and practicing law for almost 10, I have some insights that may be helpful for other people to hear too.

And if no one reads it, who cares?

Also, I am ready to be brave about being vulnerable.

3. I committed to baby-steps

I am not committing to writing a weekly blog. I am going to try and do it monthly.

4. I committed to authenticity

No ChatGPT or Claude for me 😊.

I know some people can sound like themselves using these tools, but I end up sounding like a robot.

Also, writing is creative and I love pushing myself to be think creatively.

5. I figured out how to write this in a way that didn't feel like torture

I treated myself to a few hours outside of my office in my favorite café

Shoutout to Bittersweet (take a look at my delightful brunch captured in the photo!)

So What's The Point of This Specific Not-Blog Post?

To be honest, when I started writing this, I didn't know what my point was.

But then...

When I wrote out the steps I took to get unstuck so I could write my blog, I realized it was the exact 5-step process I take each of my clients through when they need to unstick.

This is THE magic unsticking sauce. I am giving it to you here:

1. Reframe your thinking

2. Challenge your limiting beliefs

3. Commit to baby-steps

4. Do it in a way that feels authentic to you

5. Take the first step in a way that doesn't feel like torture

And it isn't a secret, feel free to share it with your friends!

If you follow this process, if you truly commit, I promise you will do the scary thing!

My only caveat is that it takes time. This one post took me three years to finally commit to creating. I had to wait until I was ready to challenge myself. And I finally was.

Let's Make this Applicable For You

Want to try out the process?

Ask yourself these two questions:

1. What are the top 3 things you want to do, but you're scared?

2. Which one are you ready to try?

Now start with Step 1 and think about how to reframe your thinking. Take it from there!

And of course, message me if you need some help kicking this off.