Welcome to My First Not-Blog

I really didn't want to do this.

I didn't want to write a blog.

I had zero interest in writing anything to put on my website that would fall into the blog category.

A killer combo of imposter syndrome and fear was stopping me.

I ask my clients to be aware of their negative self-talk and limiting beliefs, and yet I was so resistant to engaging with my own when it came to this.

But, if I am being honest, here's what my negative and limiting self-talk was messaging:

"No one will read this"

"Writing this will be a boring process"

"It requires some public vulnerability…UGH, I don't want to be vulnerable in public"

And yet, here I am.

THE TURNING POINT

How did I get over my inner critics and get to this place?

1. I reframed my thinking

   For whatever reason, the word blog gives me a pit in my stomach, so I reframed – I decided not to think about this as a blog, but as a place to share the tips/tricks/and takeaways from my work.

   
   

2. I challenged myself

   I finally questioned the limiting beliefs and self-talk that were keeping me stuck.

   
   

   I went through each area and questioned my fear or assumptions.

   
   

   Turns out, after coaching for 3 years and practicing law for almost 10, I have some learnings that may be helpful for other people to hear too.

   
   

   And if no one reads it, who cares?

   
   

   Also, I am ready to be brave about being vulnerable.

   
   

3. I committed to baby-steps

   I am committing to writing a post monthly.

   
   

4. I committed to authenticity

   No ChatGPT or Claude writing for me 😊.

   
   

   I know some people can sound like themselves using these tools, but I end up losing my voice. And getting too reliant.

   
   

   Also, writing is a great brain exercise and I love pushing myself to be more creative.

   
   

5. I figured out how to write this in a way that didn't feel like torture

   I treated myself to a few hours outside of my office in my favorite café.

   
   

   Shoutout to Chicago's lovely Bittersweet – take a look at my lovely brunch captured in the photo!

   
   

THE BIG REALIZATION

So what's the point of this specific not-blog post?

To be honest, when I started writing this, I didn't know what my point was.

But then! As I wrote out the steps of getting unstuck for my blog, I realized they are the exact 5-step process I work through with each of my clients.

STEP 1. Reframe your thinking

STEP 2. Challenge yourself to question your limiting beliefs and self-talk

STEP 3. Commit to baby-steps

STEP 4. Be totally YOU

STEP 5. DO THE THING, but do it in a way that doesn't feel horrible

These steps are the ones that took me from paralysis and fear and uncertainty to actually doing the thing!

This is THE magic sauce. I am giving it to you - FOR FREE.

If you follow this process, if you truly commit, I promise you will do the scary thing!

My only caveat is that it takes time. This one post took me three years to finally commit to creating. I had to wait until I was ready to challenge myself. And when I finally was, it worked!

YOUR TURN

Let's make this applicable for you:

Want to try out the process? Ask yourself these two questions:

1. What are the top 3 things you want to do, but you're scared to do?

2. Which one are you ready to try?

   
   

Now start with step 1 and think about how to reframe your thinking. Take it from there!

And of course, message me if you need some help kicking this off.

I JUST FINISHED WRITING THIS AND I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF!